We throw around words like “confidence” and “self-esteem” as if they mean the same thing. But the truth is they’re not the same.
And if you don’t know which one is actually holding you back, you could be trying to fix the wrong thing so let’s break it down.
Confidence Is Task-Based
Confidence is your belief in your ability to do something—launch a business, give a presentation, speak up in a meeting, or show up on camera.
It’s built through experience and evidence. The more you do something and succeed, the more confident you feel in that area.
Example: You might be confident at public speaking but still feel unworthy when receiving praise. That’s high confidence… but low self-esteem.
Self-Esteem Is Identity-Based
Self-esteem is how you feel about who you are, regardless of what you do or accomplish. It’s your internal sense of worth.
It answers the deeper questions:
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- Am I enough?
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- Do I deserve success?
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- Am I lovable, capable, worthy?
Self-esteem isn’t shaken by a failure. Confidence might waver, but self-esteem says, “I’m still okay. I still matter.”
Why the Difference Matters
When you don’t understand the difference, it’s easy to focus on the wrong fix:
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- A lack of confidence keeps you from trying.
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- Low self-esteem keeps you from believing you deserve the results—even when you succeed.
That’s why so many high-achievers still feel like imposters.
They can perform… but deep down, they don’t believe they’re worthy of the win.
How to Know Which One Needs Work
Here are a few questions to ask yourself. Do I…
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- Avoid opportunities because I’m afraid I’ll mess up? → Confidence
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- Keep pushing myself but still feel like a fraud? → Self-esteem
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- Believe I’m only valuable when I achieve something? → Self-esteem
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- Feel nervous trying something new but confident once I’ve practiced? → Confidence
If your answer is both, you’re not alone. Most people have gaps in each area—and that’s okay.
The Good News: You Can Build Both
Confidence grows through action. It takes courage to start and practice to strengthen.
Self-esteem grows through honesty, healing, and a willingness to believe you’re valuable now—not “once you prove it.”
You don’t have to hustle for your worth.
You don’t have to fake confidence you don’t feel.
You just have to start where you are—and choose to grow from there.
Here’s what I know…
You are worthy AND you are capable.
And you’re allowed to stop doubting both.
If you feel like you may need some help to sort through building your confidence or your self-esteem, I’m here to help. Set up a free strategy session and we can walk through it.